Manic Monday by Corine Brosseau
Your best friend since kindergarten just popped the question! No, she isn’t asking for a lifetime of commitment; this is something a bit more short term. You’ve just been asked to be her maid of honor. Now what??
Being asked to be a bride’s maid of honor is something to be proud of. It signifies just how much your relationship with the bride in your life is valued. However, the job comes with a lot of responsibility and lots of different hats that you’ll need to wear. From therapist to trusted fashion adviser, from cheerleader to party planner, you will be the bride’s point person throughout her engagement and on her wedding day. Your time as MOH will be filled with a lot of fun and some great memories, but it can also be very stressful.
We want to help make your run as maid of honor as stress-free and utterly blissful as possible. Here are some of our tips on how your experience can be wonderful and not worrisome!
- Know what you’re getting into and don’t commit if you don’t have the time or means. Traditionally, the maid of honor is in charge of the bridal shower and bachelorette party. These events take time, and yes, money, to pull off. You’ll also likely have to go on multiple dress hunting trips, fittings, and other meetings that your bride might need help with. If you don’t feel 100% comfortable with any of these tasks or if you’re simply too busy (be it with your job, your family, etc.), respectfully ask if you can be a bridesmaid instead. If your bride insists on having you as MOH, see if the other bridesmaids are willing to go the extra mile to step up when you’re unavailable.
- Be budget conscious. Get to know the rest of the bridal party – if you don’t already. Everyone has a different budget and it’s important to see what the ladies are willing to contribute for events like the shower and bachelorette party. Don’t plan something that is exorbitantly expensive if you’re not all comfortable with that. The bridal party is a team and you don’t want anyone feeling that they are putting in more or less money than anyone else unless they are 100% certain that they’re willing too. Finances can be a sensitive subject and it’s important that you, as ringleader, handle them as such.
- Don’t let the title get to your head. We’ve all seen Bridezillas, but there is such a thing as a Maid-of-Honor Monster, too! Make sure that you don’t treat the other bridesmaids as if they’re less important. Let everyone’s voices be heard and you can avoid lots of drama.
- Don’t procrastinate. Plan ahead! Saving things for the last minute will generally result in nothing but chaos. You want to create the best possible experience for all when planning events. If you wait till the last second, chances are everyone will be able to tell that the shower or party was thrown together haphazardly and nobody wants that!
- It’s all about the bride. Your bride will surely come to you for advice and more likely, approval, on the wedding details. If she’s clearly over the moon about something that you’re not so crazy about, understand that it’s her day and if she’s in love with something, she ought to go with it whether you think it’s the best idea or not. Be supportive and if you absolutely have to steer her away from something, make sure you have a strong reason behind it, as opposed to just saying you don’t like it. Offer alternatives that she’ll love instead of just a negative opinion with no other option.
- Most importantly, HAVE FUN!
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